(From Japan Today) We’ve said it before and we’ll say it again, dating is hard.
This is very true in Japan as well, where a survey in 2013 showed that many Japanese aren’t really dating.
Japanese author, blogger and You Tuber Yuta Aoki has made a name for himself by candidly talking with Japanese people about their thoughts on a number of issues, including the Japanese dating scene.
In this video, he asked men about their views on dating foreign women, which foreign women they find the most beautiful, and the difficulties and interesting points about dating someone who’s not from Japan.
Be prepared to be disabused, for whatever images you have conjured in your mind about finding love in Japan are certain to be skewed and not realistic, that is unless you’ve lived in the country before and you know the score.
This isn’t to say that you as a foreigner can’t find love in Japan, because some people do indeed have success, but it does mean that you need to ‘clear your mind’ and realize that there is much that is different and much to learn on the subject of love in Japan.
In order to save you from heart-break the tone of this article is rather aggressive.
“Although we can’t communicate, we love each other and that’s what’s important” If this is what you’re thinking then you are either a) completely blinded by love and are unable to see reality or b) have an IQ level of 30 and are in legally an imbecile.Relationships like these rarely last long, and are usually short lived.Unless both parties start industriously studying each others’ language and learn to communicate with each other the relationship will be over in less than a month.How on Earth could you possibly think a relationship can grow, let along stay stable if both parties are not able to communicate? That’s around 100,000 people out of the 120,000,000 population, and you can bet a good deal of that .1% are not even Japanese.And we don’t mean typing messages in Google Translator, we mean actual relaying of feelings and concepts. So let’s say you’ve already given up learning Japanese and will only settle for an English-speaking partner. With the above list in mind it may appear daunting to find your English-speaking Japanese partner, however you should turn your frown upside down, because since the advent of the Internet you can search out actual groups in cities (again, it must be a large city) that exist solely for the purpose of meeting foreigners. A quick search on Google or Facebook of ‘tokyo foreigner meetup’ will reveal several groups.Therefore, for all foreigners, men and women, who seek to find love (and by that we don’t mean one night stands, as you don’t need vocular skills in order to pull off that achievement) you will either have to learn Japanese or you’ll have to find a partner who is capable of speaking good English, and those are few and far between. You can also search for ‘language exchange’ or ‘conversation exchange’ to find groups of foreigners and Japanese who meet together to chat and work on their language skills. Now you’ve not only selected out people who probably speak some level of English, but people who also are interested in foreigners!