To me, the real question is why we glorify the traits associated with the bad boy: damaged, romantic, manly, rebellious, mysterious, smart, brooding.
It seems patently obvious that damaged, rebellious, mysterious and brooding are pretty much the OPPOSITE traits that one would look for in a life partner, yet women still undeniably find them attractive and sexy.
And do you know of any dark, damaged bad boys who have turned into happy, healthy, stand-up husbands? Hi Evan, Well my ex was every bit a bad boy and he was incredibly sexy and similarly great in bed.
I knew I’d never settle down with him or take him to my parents but at 21 he is the best guy to go around with. Though I currently am dating a nice stable guy I still hook up with my ex sometimes because he’s so much more fun to be around.
I think it all comes down to the fact that our brain is partial towards instant gratification rather than always thinking about the long term goals.
I love infographics, even when they’re based on silly, not-peer-reviewed, not-statistically significant, research, especially if they prove something illuminating.
That’s why I’m sharing this infographic from a site called Dating Metrics.
I’m not sure what they’re selling, so don’t worry about it.
Just pay attention to the part about women preferring bad boys to nice guys.
It’s amusing and a good leaping-off point for a discussion. Now, it seems to me that this was a question that had a very predictable answer.
In short, this guy looked at lists written by women about the 53 “sexiest TV characters” and realized that: 40% of women’s “fantasy TV boyfriends” are cold blooded murderers! Because the question wasn’t about “what kind of man would you like to marry?
” In fact, the question was about the “sexiest TV characters” and “fantasy TV boyfriends”.
When you frame it like that, whoever says that her As a result, this infographic is amusing, but much ado about nothing.