and let me save you a whole lot of bother by telling you this straight up: there is no perfect person out there for you because there’s no perfect person out there for anyone. Even if you end up falling head over heels for someone and they do seem perfect at the time, when the love hormones wear off, there will be one or two areas where he won’t be flawless. And this is the other great failing of online dating: it discounts one very important, extremely powerful variable - chemistry.Chemistry is what’s responsible when you meet some guy who is totally not your physical type and the complete opposite in personality to guys you normally get on with - but you don’t care.It’s illogical, irrational and out of our conscious control because it works on a primitive level based largely on whether your body wants to get close to theirs (which is why you don’t know if you’ve got it until you meet in person).
Chemistry alone won’t guarantee you a great relationship but if you have it, you’re streets ahead of the couple who don’t.
By all means date online - it’s a highly effective and successful way to meet a partner.
Just be aware that the more specific you are and the more boxes you tick, the fewer men you’re going to meet in person.
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It’s time efficient - simply go online in the comfort of your own home and view hundreds of potential partners on any number of dating websites catering for every possible taste.
And it’s convenient - you can narrow the search for a partner by listing what you will and won’t put up with.
But the biggest advantage of online dating is also the biggest disadvantage.
On the upside, it means the people you meet are likely to be more compatible with you than some random guy you meet in a bar who you know nothing about.
On the downside, it feeds into our already rampant expectations that there is indeed a perfect person out there who will tick all our boxes. You’re effectively making a list of all the characteristics and features that make up your idea of the perfect person: hair colour, height, income, likes, dislikes. Believing in Mr Perfect is about as silly as believing Christian Grey really does exist.
So you have one more online date and he’s not completely without fault either, so you try another and another… The other thing I can tell you is the person you’ll end up falling for will probably look and be nothing like what you’re imagining right now.