We agreed on once or twice a week, at most, would be okay post-wedding.
Since the wedding early last year, he has not upheld his part of the agreement, and I am very annoyed.
We have tried to discuss it rationally, but I shut down in frustration during the conversations.
I’m frustrated for two reasons: 1) he’s not upholding his part of the agreement; and 2) whenever he gets the urge to smoke, he would like me to reiterate why we made the agreement, and I’m tired of having the conversation over and over again.
(He does agree that one or two times a week is a good frequency, but he he just can’t seem to adhere to it).
We’re at a stalemate on this issue, and it’s created more cranky evenings in our home than I care for.
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You can read about me here, peruse the archives here and read popular posts here.If you don’t find the info you need in this column, please visit the Dear Wendy archives or the forums (you can even start your own thread), or submit a question for advice.My husband and I have been married for nearly a year, together around six.We have a very healthy and happy relationship in all areas, but lately have been struggling with one basically minor issue – his weed smoking.We had extensive conversations about both of our expectations and wants relating to this subject before getting married, and we had come to a mutual, “meet-in-the-middle” agreement.I essentially wanted him to not buy or smoke weed ever again after our wedding, while he wanted to continue smoking every day.