He’ll paint a vivid picture of where he wants to be and how he’s moving towards the lifestyle he envisions for himself. He can’t hypnotize you by applying lipstick mid-conversation, but what he do is show off.
In fact, he wants you to have even more faith in him than he has in himself. Don’t invest in a man just because he has big ideas – it doesn’t necessarily mean he will follow through on them. But it won’t change who they fundamentally are (in fact, achieving success can bring out uglier sides of a person that you may not have seen previously, so be warned).
Just because he paints a compelling picture of the future, that future could still be ten years away, and there’s no guarantee he’ll even get there.
Assume he will always be the man he is now, and invest from that basis.
Ambition and determination are frequently cited by women, alongside confidence, as traits that are inherently sexy in a man.
Let’s talk about how to handle the power hungry maniac. Matt has often spoken in his seminars about the importance of certainty in attraction – so it’s little surprise that women are turned on when a man has big ideas about what he wants and makes strides towards his dreams.
And ambitious men are turned on by women who encourage their ambition.
Men are strongly driven to succeed by fantasies of sex and power (and even the latter I imagine is desired as a route to the former).
Both are responsible for all manner of great and terrible historical deeds.
When a guy wants to show off his master plan for his future to a woman, it’s his way of puffing out his chest and displaying a unique ability only he possesses.
It’s his competitive instinct saying: “stay with me, and you’ll see why I’m so much more amazing than other guys”.
Within the first few dates an ambitious guy will typically open up to you about his dreams and plans.