When it comes to online dating, one of the most difficult things to do can be writing that first message to someone. This article is intended to offer you tips and advice on writing that first message to someone you’re interested in at an online dating service. The stress of introducing yourself is enough pressure alone, but throwing in the aspect of writing a virtual essay into the equation only doubles the anxiety.It doesn’t have to be this way; which leads up to our first tip… Don’t be so nervous about writing that first message. It’s not a face-to-face encounter with all of your friends in a corner somewhere watching to see if you get rejected or applauded.
This will give you a better idea of the person’s interests, which will in turn give you an idea of what to talk about in your first message. I was reading over your profile and found that we seem to have a lot in common.
It will also tell the person that you took the time to read and appreciate their profile, which gets you points from the start. For instance, we both enjoy…” If you have a common interest in mountain biking, tell them about your favorite mountain biking experience, or something funny that happened during one of these trips.
Simplicity is Bliss Don’t over-project yourself in the first online dating message. Don’t make it multi-paragraphs, but short and sweet.
Actually making the effort to connect through mutual interests is a major plus.
No Pick-Up Lines Don’t toss out cheesy pick-up lines, like “Hello, I'm a thief, and I'm here to steal your heart.” Pick-up lines always come off sounding insincere and may result in immediate rejection without a second thought.
For men especially, they imply that you are after “one thing” only, which is usually an instant turn-off for women.
Don’t Overdo It Don’t try too hard to impress someone on the first message.
First impressions are very important, but if you overdo it, you may not be able to live up to the impression you are giving.
Don’t spend a great deal of time talking about yourself either – allow the person a chance to reply and inquire more about you.