The most daunting part about online dating (aside from, you know, talking to new people) is putting together a profile—yet it’s the one of the most important.This awkward personal resume is the first thing people see, and can mean the difference between a date and an unreturned message.Here’s how to craft a profile that will help you stand out without feeling awkward. No matter what service you use (or if you’re meeting people online) you’re still working towards the same goal: meeting someone you find attractive.
It feels a bit unnatural to list every positive aspect of yourself, and if you have any insecurities (which everyone does), it’s easy for them to show up in your profile.
However, the nature of dating assumes that you have something valuable to offer a potential partner.
You think there’s a good reason for someone to date you, right? This doesn’t mean bragging about how awesome you are, or being condescending to people who don’t recognize your obvious greatness.
It means combing your hair or putting on a nice shirt before you take a picture.
It means filling your profile with things that make you unique and interesting, rather than listing the “demands” you have for a mate. Think of it like going out for a job interview: you want to put your best face forward. Describing yourself is hard, and when you’re presenting yourself to potential dates, you’ll probably feel particularly vulnerable.
Insecurities may start surfacing and it’s tempting to get discouraged. Your profile is all about you, which means you get to talk about what you like, what you love, and what you want.
The more your profile highlights what’s great about you, the better.
You don’t necessarily want to brag, but if you struggle with expressing yourself confidently (like in a job interview), this is perfect practice.
None of these areas are absolutely required, but they should help give you something to start writing about.