“I don’t want this to be exclusive…” was the last thing I wanted to hear. “It’s not that there’s anything wrong with you, it’s just that I don’t want to get into a relationship.” Sure, that made all the difference. I’d never been in that situation before and it was going to be interesting.She was beautiful, intelligent, funny, cool, and a sexual dynamo. Despite what my original misgivings, it turned out to be a smart decision. Partly because I was terrified of losing her, but also because I wanted to see just how it would play out.
Seeing the other side of the coin showed me that letting the girls you’re dating see other guys was not only OK, but actually had a lot of benefits.
There are too many to cover here, but here are the 4 top reasons why you MUST encourage the girls you’re dating to see other guys: Allowing her to see other guys gives you the space to see other girls.
This means you go out, flirt and play, make out, muck around, and not even think twice about getting in trouble. If she’s seeing other guys, it means she’ll be far less needy and demanding.
You’ll have more freedom to do what you want, when you want, and be able to see her when you want to, rather than when she calls. If you’re also seeing other people, it won’t matter if she can’t see you because you’ll have other things to occupy your time with.
As neediness is one of the biggest relationships killers, this is a HUGE plus.
The fastest way to kill any potential relationship is to take all the tension out of it.
Safe, comfortable relationships have the most potential to get boring and stale very quickly and fizzle out before you can work out if there’s any real potential.
By encouraging girls you’re dating to see other guys and seeing other girls yourself, you’ll keep the tension, desire, and passion in the relationship long enough to see if this person is really worth committing to. ” (Don’t pretend like you don’t care) Realising these insecurities and having them hit you in the face every time you see her means you have to confront them and deal with them, rather than running from them.
And most importantly: Dating a girl who you know is dating other guys is a fertile breeding ground for insecure thoughts to pop into your head that just don’t exist if you’re in an exclusive relationship: “Am I as good as him? When you confront them, you’ll develop your inner confidence and strength to a point where you simply don’t care any about other guys anymore, rather than spending your life running from your insecurities.