And while those micro-decisions seem unimportant, they add up and do matter, because you’re only as good as the profile you craft.
So how do you create the kind of online identity that will land you a first date?
Researchers from Queen Mary University of London wondered the same thing, so they analyzed previous research on attraction.
They published their findings this week in the journal Evidence Based Medicine.
Before we get to the findings, some caveats: these are generalities. And maybe these tips will land you more first dates, but it’s unclear whether these are the kinds of first dates you want.
DO: BE THOUGHTFUL ABOUT YOUR USERNAME People gloss over this one too often, and maybe it’s because we’re in a time when people tend to use their real names, or variations thereof, in many of their online interactions. Remember back to when picking your AIM username was a serious task?
It was your identity, your marker, and you’d better be happy with picking “DMX123″ because you could be stuck with it for years.
When picking a username, opt for incorporating more desirable traits rather than ones with negative connotations, the researchers wrote.
Stay away from words like “little” or “bugg” in them, as they “are often associated with inferiority,” the study noted.
“Playful screen names (eg, Fun2bwith) are universally attractive. According to the study, measures of success, such as educational attainment and income, are correlated with names that start with letters higher up in the alphabet.
Men are more attracted to screen names that indicate physical attractiveness (eg, Blondie, Cutie), whereas women are more attracted to screen names that indicate intelligence (eg, Cultured),” the authors write. Free suggestion: “Aaaaaaamazingly_attractive.” Some sites sort alphabetically, so your best bet is to start your username with letters in the first half, A through M.
(So, the username “LEANING_IN_AND_LOVIN_IT” should still be okay, right?