I wrote a post about how to tell the difference between a run of the mill A**hole and a Narcissist.I wrote it about six months ago and it has quickly topped my most popular blog ranking.
I covered many tips and examples of how to handle the narcissist. Even if you’re in a court room the truth can be misrepresented in front of a supremely intelligent judge. They will tell you how ‘concerned’ they are about you because you’ve ‘changed’. It goes like this; ‘Love’ turns to ‘concern’ which quickly turns to anger and resentment. ”, “How dare she give me the silent treatment, after all I’ve done for her.” These are common complaints of a narcissist. Your tastes, interests, opinion are not of interest to the Narc (unless they corroborate his). You are part of their plan and must fulfill their needs. They’re gregarious, nice people when they want to be. By being friendly and warm until you challenge or question them, then review first 3 points above.
So, now let’s remind ourselves why we are foolish to continue relationships with Narcs and why sometimes even setting boundaries isn’t enough. In other words, lies can be substituted for truth and fact presented as fiction because there will always be blurred lines with a Narcissist. That means that if you are than they are and represent something they can’t understand, they will not tolerate it. 5 You will eventually have to set severe limits or end the relationship altogether.
More specifically what are the 5 scary facts of being in a relationship with a Narcissist? After all four of the above scary facts are recognized and obviously taking a big chunk out of your everyday happiness, you will want to do something about it.
It is impossible as a normal functional, beautiful human being to continue a relationship with a Narc.
The time will come when you have to set boundaries, or completely disconnect, depending on the circumstances. They usually show remorse when they are caught out on their bad habits.
Those are the 5 scary facts of being in a relationship with a Narc. You might be wondering again, what’s the difference and can I have a relationship with one? They have the ability to apologize and try to change.Of course, ultimately we want to have relationships with people who are respectful, considerate, polite, pleasant and generous.We want to be around people who see us as individuals and care for us in spite of our differences in opinion. A**holes are capable of empathy while Narcs are not.A**holes although argumentative will appreciate and encourage different opinions while Narcs will not.So, not that I would condone having an a**hole for a boyfriend, lover or friend, there is hope far beyond a Narc.This video by Smakintosh explains the Narc the best…