Let’s be honest; there are a lot of distinctly average-looking foreign guys living in Japan dating jaw-droppingly beautiful Japanese girls. But no matter how much we remind ourselves that it’s what’s on the inside that counts, there’s no denying the fact that human beings, flawed as we are, make a lot of decisions based on appearances. Rather than ask my wife (a native Japanese lady and, yes, far too pretty for me) and risk alerting her to the fact that she might have done better, I took my question to a higher power- the internet.
As a result, foreigners, especially us tall white guys, tend to stand out…
“With the number of foreigners in the country so low, it’s not unnatural for women to want to meet and befriend the foreign people that they happen to meet,” tells Madame Riri.
“There are some women who, almost as though the man were a fashion accessory of sorts, love the thought of walking down the street on the arm of a foreign man.” Does anyone else suddenly feel like one of Paris Hilton’s dogs…? Foreign men have “alluring physical features” Madame Riri suggests that a combination of physical features, from light-coloured hair and eyes to a comparatively tall, solid physique, make foreigners a big hit with Japanese women.
Foreigners from European and American countries tend to have more defined facial features when compared to Asian men, which, according to our guide, are both striking and “charming”, apparently. “Their audacity” It would seem that a lot of Japanese ladies are fans of the whole “western confidence” thing…
According to Madame Riri, “modern Japanese men are becoming more and more passive,” and are less likely to openly pursue women, stating that “compared to our herbivorous young man, western men are distinctly meat-eaters!
Western men come out and say what they’re feeling; if they like a woman, they tell them.Our men, on the other hand, seem to find using romantic words and talking about affairs of the heart incredibly difficult.” 4.The way they treat women I’ve lost track of the number of times I’ve heard the phrase “English gentleman” since I first came to Japan.Despite doing my best to inform that, as nice a stereotype as it is, it’s not entirely true (sorry, guys), many Japanese continue to believe that England is a county populated entirely by gallant young men in frilly white shirts and riding boots, bounding across gravel driveways to throw a cloak over a puddle for some hapless maiden.Even so, western men’s treatment of women in Japan seems to be hugely well received: “With well-planned dates and concepts like ‘ladies first’, western men are, in general, very kind to women.They are often brought up from a young age to treat women like princesses, and, regardless of the woman’s relative indifference, are expected to behave like gentlemen as a rule.” Again, I hate to burst your bubble, Madame Riri, but I think you should come and meet some of the “gentlemen” who frequent my local pub sometime… A boyfriend is cheaper than English classes And then things get a little gritty.