We all know that men are attracted to attractive women.
In other words, personality plays a big role not only in interpersonal chemistry (how well you can hold a conversation in a bar or how well you respond to a date emotionally) but in actually altering how attractive someone thinks you are.
MC: What do you think your study should inform us about our dating profiles? Lewandowski: Especially for women, I'd suggest that they emphasize traits that are not suggestive of physical features in any way.
Since men tend to focus more on physical features, anything women can do to broaden men's impression formation to other areas would be smart.
Also, whereas physical features tend to naturally diminish and become less attractive over time, personality does not, so it is in everyone's best interest to avoid having a potential partner's interest based primarily on appearance.
MC: Do you feel like the study is a good indication that we should give someone we're not 100 percent attracted to a second chance?
GL: When forming an initial impression of looks, it is 100 percent physical.
But my study suggests that your assessment of physical attractiveness does change over time and that getting to know someone will move the needle, in good and bad ways.
Personality and your ability to relate to the other person is much more important for long-term relationship quality and stability.
Really what we should do is weigh personality much more strongly and appearance much less.
The best relationships are between romantic partners who are first and foremost best friends.
Determining that level of compatibility takes time.