With the increasing popularity of the Internet and the easy availability of pornographic websites, cyber sex addiction is becoming a problem.Many people do enjoy adult chat rooms and pornographic sites without becoming addicted.
The counseling center at the University of Rochester offers a useful checklist to help people with cyber sex addiction, and their friends and families, to recognize the problem.
According to the University counselors, you may be addicted to cyber sex if: Other warning signs may be part of addiction, or they may reveal that a person is at risk.
Recognizing these signs can serve as a wake-up call, letting the user know that it's time to cut back.
Warning signs include: The first step to overcoming cyber sex addiction is to recognize that the problem exists.
A doctor or therapist can help identify any underlying problems such as depression, low self-esteem, or fear of real-life relationships.
Not all cyber sex addicts have these problems, but if they are present, treatment is essential to recovery.
He doesn’t care how many partners you’ve had; it’s all in the past. To find out the answer, fall back to the fundamentals: identifying the addict is the first step. One-night stands, extra-marital affairs, GPS hook-ups, obsessive online dating.
And when it comes to sex addiction, that first step is a doozy. The list is long and gets darker the further down you go: compulsive masturbation, exhibitionism, voyeurism, prostitutes.“If you’re married, your acceptable sexual behavior may be defined differently than if you’re single,” says Mike Weiss, a certified addiction therapist and founder of The Sexual Recovery Institute.
The list of behaviors associated with a sexual addict is so mundane, practically anyone can tick off at least a couple. “Sexual addiction follows a certain repetitive pattern; if you’d rather ask forgiveness than permission, that’s abusive.”Compulsive sexual behavior, the clinical phrase for sex addiction, is what experts call a “progressive intimacy disorder,” meaning that it worsens the longer it’s left untreated.
However, this does mean every addict eventually transforms into a sex offender.
“People don’t escalate outside their arousal templates,” says Weiss.