This covers the spectrum from higher ups at work, love interests, people we don't know at parties, popular people from school or the office, even celebrities. Often people we look up to (or those who we just don't know who seem cool) can bring up feelings we harbor about ourselves that we are not good enough, smart enough, interesting enough. We are all made from the same source and the truth is -- and this is repeated in many spiritual scriptures "we are all special and we are all not special." We are all equal, my friends. So, yeah, I'm a weak, imperfect person." Even wolves get scared!
Similarly, I introduced myself and asked a bit about her and her work. When I shared that he does come across as a little aloof he was surprised as it is the opposite of his intention. Like our values, the qualities that intimidate vary for everyone.
A friend of a friend of mine who appears standoffish confided in me one night at drinks he is shy and loves it when people interact with him. As a sales professional that goes to a lot of networking events, I have been brushed more times than I can recall. As far as I am aware, I am still alive and well (and certainly more successful as a result of still going for it anyway).7. Nothing made the need for this article more clear than when someone recently told me that before they met me, they thought I was intimidating. Super friendly, short, always smiling, girl from a small town, me?
Shyness is misunderstood as aloofness all the time. 'So what' is one of the greatest things you can ask yourself in this world. The opportunities are abundant when you stop allowing fear to get the better of you.
You might make a new friend, a new career connection or get a date!
I’d shake and stutter and make myself as small as possible.
I’d fill my words with ‘I’m sorry’s’, having nothing in particular to apologize for.
I’d hide the fierceness that has always lived within me.
If you are often intimidated by others, here are a few things I’ve learned along they way.
I hope they help you see that you deserve to stand strongly amongst even your greatest idols, “superiors”, and authority figures.