Believe it or not, most male musicians have their ass kissed by everyone, every minute of every day.Simply dating a musician does not mean that your sole purpose is to support them.
They need to fight, they need to get trashed together, or break things or do whatever it is that feeds their inspiration.
They need each other, and it is your responsibility to make sure that you don’t get in the way.
Do not beg him, in your infinite neediness, to stay home from band practice.
About once a week, I read something on the internet that makes my blood boil. Everyone who loves to fap all over the Beatles so conveniently seems to forget that.
Today it was this article in the Riverfront Times, the St. This article reads like instructions on how to spoil a young child beyond all possibility of repair; it sounds like a step-by-step playbook on how to coddle a human being into being the biggest, most self-entitled asshole they could possibly be. People also tend to forget that Yoko Ono has continued to be an artist for the rest of her life, with or without John Lennon.
The author writes this article assuming that precious little musicians are deserving of special treatment within relationships, thusly assuming that most musicians are so stupid that they cannot act and behave like normal human beings. All the Beatles historians in the world can’t argue with the fact that there are so many reasons why the Beatles broke up, and Yoko Ono was certainly not the only reason. Seriously, it’s the biggest cliché in the book – do you want to be a part of it? He works very hard, but he is not always better than the rest of his band.
Given the rampant sexism within the music community that all female musicians have to face, it makes it that much more painful to read such sexist beliefs coming from another woman. 99% of the criticism of Yoko Ono reeks of sexism and racism. He does not need to branch out and gain more recognition and individual praise from the music community.
Yoko Ono was a well-respected artist prior to meeting John Lennon.
That is what you are there for (see The Support Factor).