Likewise, their dreams for their child to marry someone within their race aren’t going to disappear overnight.
Be patient as they adjust to a change in (their) plans for their child.
When parents see how happy their children are in healthy relationships, race and background will become less important.
Give your parents — or your date’s parents — the benefit of the doubt. Try to understand their perspectives: in earlier generations, interracial romance wasn’t much of an option, so while it might not be a big deal to you, the generation gap will dictate a different attitude.
It can be an intimidating experience, even when meeting the most accepting of families.
In an interracial relationship, meeting the parents can be even scarier as you anticipate potential objections, disapproval or awkward questions.
Here are some things to consider before you meet — or introduce — the parents.
Before you meet your date’s parents — and/or before you introduce your parents to your date — talk about your families. Discuss your parents’ attitudes on interracial relationships, their individual roles within the family, and to what degree you value their opinions.
If you know of any outright opposition to the relationship, try to prep your date with any background information — understanding perspectives can help soften attitudes — that might explain why your parents feel the way they do.
If your date doesn’t freely offer this information, ask specific questions that will best help prep you for your first encounter.
Don’t expect to win over families at your first meeting.
Long-standing attitudes and prejudices won’t be cast aside immediately just because you’re a great person.