There’s only so much non-committal drama a person can handle before they snap. I have wasted a great deal of time pining for guys who are huge commitment phobes.They’re afraid of being tied down to one person and what that could mean for their future. But at least one good thing came out of my having to deal with all those men with commitment phobia—I learned the different ways to tell if he is a commitment phobe right from the get-go.
Most of the time, you’ll be able to find out if the person you want to be with has had a girlfriend or more in the past.
Whether that’s through talking to them or from internet snooping, you’ll find out.
If he has no indication of any past relationships, it could be a sign that he just never commits. 13 clear giveaways] #2 He never mentions the future.
Often if you are feeling like your man doesn’t want to take your relationship to the next level, you wind up taking that to mean he’s (gasp!
) a commitment phobe that doesn’t know how to be in a real relationship.
However that’s not always the case and it could be much simpler than you think.
It’s hard to straight out ask a person if they’re afraid of commitment.
Firstly, you have no reason to suspect that they might be if you’re still just getting to know them, and secondly, it might actually scare someone off *even if they’re not afraid to commit*.
This makes the dating game really hard for those of us who want something serious but don’t know how to tell if the person we’re after is the commitment type.
There’s not much worse than pursuing a relationship with someone who is going to bolt at the first sign of something serious.
It’s a waste of time and it’s honestly an emotional hardship.