Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus This book is great as a way of understanding how our culture trains boys and girls to be different.We teach girls that they can cry when theyre sad, talk about their feelings, and share experiences with each other.
In essence, a few core themes run through the book, being supported by various examples, and different wording that help make the points clear.
First, men are goal-oriented, internalizing, and when they are stressed, "retreat to a cave" to consider what to do.
They want to come to a solution on their own, and *then* emerge. The book recommends if your man is lost while driving, or forgets something while travelling, to just be quiet and accept it.
To try to help them while they are in the "cave" is counter productive. This is the whole Knight-in-Armor, John Wayne, Rambo training we have given men. It will show your trust in him to get there eventually or to solve the problem.
Im personally not sure if tihs is always wise advice.
Women, on the other hand, are nurturing, expressive, feeling individuals who tend to use poetic license such as saying "you ALWAYS forget to do that chore" or "you NEVER listen to me".
The advice given to men is to take what women say with a grain of salt, and not to react to any of it literally.
Most of what women want, according to the book, is just to be heard. They want to feel that their feelings are being heard and understood ...
they want to be held and be told "Yes, yes, I understand".
The book explains that men make the mistake of thinking women tell them things in order for the men to *fix* those things.
Instead, the women tell them things in order to share their feelings, but arent seeking actual resolutions.