When one parent dies and the remaining parent begins dating or marries someone else, it can be very hard for the adult child to accept, no matter how soon after the death it occurs.
Partly that is because you may be feeling a need to remain loyal to your mother and respectful of her memory, and you may be worried that your father will cease to remember and love this irreplaceable person you both have lost.
It may be helpful for you to keep in mind that you and your father are grieving very different losses, and the relationships you had with the person who died are very different too.
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I don’t know how long your parents were married, how close they were to each other, or anything else about their relationship, but I do know that however your father reacts to your mother’s death depends on many, many different factors.
See, for example, some of the links listed on this page on my Grief Healing website: Death That Brings Relief.
In her bestselling book, Motherless Daughters: The Legacy of Loss, author Hope Edelman argues that a surviving father’s behavior in the wake of his wife’s death “matters [to a daughter] even more than we think,” in how it can influence a daughter’s long-term adaptation to the loss of her mother.
Many individuals approach marriage, even remarriage, with a “let’s get married and work out the details later” attitude.
In fact, most remarrying couples have known each other less than 9 months.
Couples remarry long before they have finished grieving their losses, worked through their issues or developed a healthy single lifestyle. Jeff and Judi Parziale A reader writes: My dad remarried recently to a woman he met four months after my mom's passing.
I am 36, so part of me feels like I shouldn't be so childish about this--however--they are an extremely insensitive twosome.
My father will not speak of my mom; it's as if she never existed! Is it wrong to fess up to him and tell him how upsetting I find all of this?
He says constantly that he wouldn't change one thing in his life as it is today for anything. I miss my mom so much, there is such a void without her and it is so heartbreaking that the one person who could tell the best "mom" stories won't even speak her name.
I don't know what my question is, or how you can help, but I am just so angry! My response: I'm so sorry to learn of the difficulties you're having with your dad, and I can only imagine how difficult this must be for you.
The feelings you’re having toward your dad in the aftermath of your mother’s death are understandable.