Flores, with a few streaks of gray hair and a youthful face, is up front: “I have no interest in getting remarried,” he says.
He’s currently dating, but adds, “it’s complicated.” Flores, who has divorced friends and colleagues in high-paying careers, also worries about the “gold-digger aspect,” when younger women—or men—are only interested in someone for their money.
He gives the example of a beautiful, 20-something pursuing a middle-age man, knowing only that he’s a lawyer, or a doctor, and drives a nice car. “People are more discreet in Hawaii, though, because we’re a smaller community.” Neko Kim* had 10 years of marriage on Flores.
Born and raised in Hawaii, the vivacious 43-year-old is a flight attendant, and frequently flies to Japan, Thailand and Korea.
Honolulu is world famous for destination weddings and honeymoons. Our Island community is unique; our dating scene is no different.
Oahu singles take a casual approach to dating compared to our Mainland counterparts.
We’re laidback, culturally diverse and tight-knit; go out often enough and you’re bound to run into someone you graduated from high school with or your cousin dated.
Not only is the dating scene more intimate than, say, New York or Los Angeles, it's friendlier, too.
To find out the ins and outs of dating in Honolulu, we met up for coffee with a 26-year-old who doesn’t want anything serious, had lunch with a 42-year-old virgin who’s waiting for the right woman, chatted with a single mother of two who doesn’t want to date a single dad, talked on the phone with a gold-digger-wary lawyer, gay men who find the dating scene small and more.
Each has a unique story about what it’s like to live, date and romp through the bars, beaches—and apartments—of the city.