Any non-white person who has online dated will know that race always comes into it.Even if you don’t explicitly mention it, your inbox will inevitably contain messages from people fetishising your colour.
A man messaged her, telling her how attractive he thought her “Latino tan” was.
When she pointed out that she was actually Indian, and naturally brown, he stopped replying immediately.
It might have been down to a variety of reasons, but experience told her that it’s because he didn’t want to date an Indian girl - or, indeed, any girl who was radically different from himself. A new study by OKCupid suggests that such behaviour is more prevelant than ever.
The website looked at research from five years ago - which showed most people prefer to date within their own race - and compared it to current data. According to OKCupid, Asian and black men receive fewer messages than white men, while black women receive the fewest messages of all users.
Christian Rudder, the site’s co-founder, says: “OKCupid users are certainly no more open-minded than they used to be.
If anything, racial bias has intensified a bit.” A close friend, Sarah, is living proof of this.
She's an attractive, half-Chinese and half-Caucasian 24-year-old woman, who uses OKCupid.
Last week, she received what, to me, is an explicitly racist message.
It was from Username8493, who told her: “Sorry I’m not interested.
I only do hot white girls.” She responded by telling him that she thought he was racist, and if he didn’t want to date her, he could have just not replied. “I’m polite and when I prefer to tell the truth to a person instead of ignoring them.
[sic] Obviously you don’t have the same level of education.