A few weeks ago, a conversation emerged on my Twitter timeline discussing whether or not black women should seek older men for dating and relationships.
Many young women may hold the belief that an older man will be more established in his career, more protective and eager to settle down with one woman.
Yet, as someone who has dated older, I now know this is not always the case.
One of the first factors a woman should weigh is that an older man may not be as mature as she might assume him to be.
The general assumption is that a man of a certain age will be very mature, what with the assumption that he’s gotten all of the partying and “playing” out of his system.
A man should be judged individually for what emotional and mental state he presently is in, not for where society dictates he should be at a certain age.
My experience has taught me that there are plenty of men who are well into their 30s and 40s who still possess the behavioral traits of an early-20 something, college-campus playboy.
Unless you are looking for a fun and light partnership, such a man – regardless of age – is not the type to pick when ready to settle into a serious relationship.
Trust, the old saying, “with age comes wisdom” does not apply to everyone.
More or less, the experiences of a man can be what makes him more mature, or what has him getting his Benjamin Button on behavior-wise.
On that note, another major difference that is sure to arise is the large gap in life experiences.
Although, a young lady may feel as if she is too mature for men her age, her lack of experience will more than likely cause her to come off as young, inexperienced and even immature in front of an older man.
Let’s face it: the things we experience by the time we are in our mid-20s will pale in comparison to the journeys and obstacles we will have endured 10-20 years down the line.
A woman in her 20s can only act as what she is – a young adult, no matter how mature she is.