Which means that there are definitely some quality guys who don’t get through the first screening process I remember meeting a woman on in 2002.
She could date a guy that’s just as successful and kind, but closer to her age. But as much as the young women complain about all of the awful guys who write to them, they generally refuse to stem the tide by removing themselves or going without a picture.
I wrote about this extensively in and think that if your biggest problem is the volume of the “wrong men” writing, it’s really easy to fix.
Take down your photo or profile and proactively contact men.
Dear Ynez, Allow me to answer your second question first, because it’s a lot quicker: No. So, in essence, you’re saying something as clichéd as “I like to laugh” or “I want a man who’s honest.” It’s a pointless point, and is one that’s bound to be ignored.
Don’t express in your profile that you prefer emails to winks. 2) The fact that he winks instead of taking the time to write to you speaks volumes about him. ” Feel free to ignore anyone who doesn’t meet your criteria, Ynez – including your desire to be emailed – but please, don’t issue demands in your profile. I have two (and maybe even three) answers to your query about sending a follow-up email.
A wink says either that he’s lazy, he’s illiterate, or, more likely, that he’s winking at 50 people at a time to see who responds to him. One set of rules applies to men, another applies to women.He may actually be a decent guy – but he’s a decent guy who is pretty indiscriminate about the women he contacts. 3) I just think it’s in poor form to tell anyone what to do. And yes, there’s a logical explanation for this double standard. No, you shouldn’t send a follow-up email to a guy if he hasn’t written back.It’s not that it’s impossible that he was busy, or accidentally deleted your email, or had an emotional crisis that caused him to abandon dating for awhile.Rather, it’s that, 99 times out of 100, a guy who doesn’t write back to you is a guy who isn’t attracted to you. Because women – especially younger women – receive infinitely more emails than men.If he is attracted to you but is dating other people, he’ll get back to you eventually, without any additional prodding on your part. Think about it: If a guy is doing great, he might get ten emails – and can manage to respond to the three or four attractive women in his inbox.If a woman is doing great, she might get 50 emails, or 150 emails, or 400 emails.