that the age difference of 33 years drove the couple apart ( 15 Common Divorce Mistakes). Maybe, like so many couples that end up divorced, they just weren't meant to be. My husband of almost six years is 25 years my senior.
You never hear anyone say "Dick and Jane are the same age—that must have had something to do with their breakup." I call BS on blaming the age difference when it comes to divorce. Our age difference might influence our choice in music but in no way does it affect our arguments, personal goals, admiration for one another or our love.
A marriage is a relationship built on love and I can't imagine sharing my life (I'm 28) with anyone other than my 53-year-old husband—who has been told on numerous occasions he looks like Billy Joel. In celebration of large age-gap relationships, here are five ways my romance with a much older man has made me a better person:1. My husband Tom has had years of crazy life before me (like when he was eight and his house blew up; his time in a band; the tragic death of his four-year-old daughter in a fire), so I've learned to become a dynamite listener.
When Tom and I first met, I was only 18—I certainly didn't want my peers judging me, thinking my being with a partner older than some of their parents was "weird" or "disgusting;" or by older women who thought he was only with me for the sex or that I was one manifestation aspect of a mid-life crisis. We knew our love was real and didn't let the naysayers influence our romance.
The old saying "treat others as you would like to be treated" really comes into play here.3. Self-consciousness aside, our relationship slowly progressed from sideward glances and intellectual conversation over lunch to long kisses and passionate embraces during afternoons spent in bed. Tom has taught me to appreciate the moment I'm in and not live for the future—as we young people will do, particularly in today's society of acquisition and titles. Understanding that you have to live your life for yourself is such an important realization, and one that many of us forget when it comes to everything from what type of career to pursue to whom we fall in love with.
Unlike with younger guys, the experience with Tom was more about the two of us than just him and his desires. With him, I felt like I went from virgin to vixen in record time. He reminds me not to wish my life away because, in the blink of an eye, I'll be his age.
Bette Davis once said that getting old is not for sissies.
Well, many women would argue that the same comment applies to dating after 60.
Not only are there statistically fewer men, but the dynamic of human engagement, and style of personal connection, has changed dramatically since we were dating in our 20’s.Also, a lifetime of love and loss has made many women distrustful and unwilling to get back into the dating game.Dating coaches take a more positive stance on dating after 60.They explain that a change in mindset is essential for women over 60 who want to find romance.In my recent interview with dating coach, David Wygant, he suggested that men are often the ones who lack confidence and suffer from fear of rejection.He says that older women have the power to make a connection that turns into a dating opportunity.