Clearly, the words of 'playfulness' and 'laughter' indicate that what is being encouraged is the couple's romance, foreplay and, generally, 'having fun' with one another.
This shows that it is one of the primary goals of a marriage that each party find satisfaction in the other.
Also, the Prophet parties should be satisfied with each other ('…so that you may play with her and she may play with you…').
In most Muslim cultures, women's sexuality is sidelined or even suppressed.
Not only is a woman's sexual feelings ignored, some cultures even cut off a part of a woman's sexual organ in order to minimize her sexuality (through barbaric practices such as FGM – female genital mutilation).
He was from the Ansar, and accepted Islam as a young boy. He was also blessed to live an extremely long life.
Jabir was perhaps the youngest Companion to witness and participate in the blessed 'Treaty of Aqaba,' before the of the Prophet.
Because of this, Jabir became one of the most profuse narrators of hadith, earning his name in the top five Companions in terms of quantity of hadith narrated.Jabir married young – he was probably seventeen or eighteen when he got married.His story is mentioned in most books of hadith, including the two said, “But why didn't you marry a younger girl, so that you could play with her, and she could play with you, and you could make her laugh, and she could make you laugh? My father died a martyr at Uhud, leaving behind daughters, so I did not wish to marry a young girl like them, but rather an older one who could take care of them and look after them.” The Prophet said to me, 'Slow down, and enter at night, so that she who has not combed may comb her hair, and she who has not shaved may shave her private area.' Then he said to me, 'When you enter upon her, then be wise and gentle.'” [Reported by Bukhari and Muslim, with various wordings, in their two This is only part of a much larger hadith, known as (not surprisingly! It is a hadith full of benefits, and in fact separate treatises have been written by our scholars just on this one hadith.In this article, we are concerned with how this hadith sheds light on intimacy and marriage in Islam.What first strikes us is the frankness of the Prophet's question.He is encouraging Jabir to find a playful wife, and wants the both of them to enjoy each other.