"Your gaggle is the group of guys who you might not be 'dating' or in a defined relationship with, but who fulfill some sort of need in your life," Massa explains."They are helping you figure out who you are, what you want, and what type of man you ultimately desire." These dudes can include The Hot Sex Prospect, The Career Booster, and The Ex-Boyfriend Who's Still Around.
Every interaction counts, from the conference room to G-chat to the soccer field.
Start seeing technology as a useful tool to get to know guys better. Before you know it, your convos will be getting offline."Instead of trying to micromanage your love life, create open spots for men, planned or unplanned, to fill," Massa says. Until you do, a guy may not even realize you're into him.
When you hear a song you think a guy would like, send it to him on Spotify. Next time you're buying concert tickets for a band you love, buy two—and don't immediately decide who gets to be your plus-one. The key is getting the guy out of a familiar context. That's what happened to one guy Massa interviewed who met his now-fiancé on a volleyball team.
In sex, just like sports, it pays to play by the rules. In football, officials moved the restraining line from the 30-yard line to the 35, with the intention of increasing touchbacks. Using eye-tracking technology, scientists from the Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender, and Reproduction found that women are actually more likely to have wandering eyes than men.
And in basketball, officials dumped the no-dunk rule after fans complained that it made play less exciting. Women not only spent less time looking at a man’s face (when compared with men looking at women); they also moved more quickly onto his other body parts. “So take in her breasts or legs, but don’t dwell on them.” And make the most of your assets, too.
Well, now it’s time to dump some obsolete dating rules, too..you want to win. “Wear well-fitting shirts, and don’t be shy about using your jeans to show off whatever nature gave you.” OLD: Online dating. ● Online dating made it easy to cast a wide dating net.
Play by these new rules and you’ll score again and again. Trouble is, you’d end up hooking a lot of fish you had no appetite for.
“Most women would probably say they don’t stare at men’s bodies in the same way men do women, but they’re mistaken,” says sex therapist Ian Kerner, author of .
Mobile dating apps allow you to see who’s online and in the vicinity, improving your chances of landing a really good catch.